Two months ago Doug called his childhood friend to check on he and his family during the nationwide pandemic. As they were catching up, Doug's friend mentioned to him that he and his wife had separated. Doug was completely taken off guard as was the rest of our family once he shared this information with him. We had been close to their family. Doug and I had both been in their wedding. He and his wife were godparents to Meg and Cam. Brett had invited their oldest daughter to his senior Prom. We were even more shocked last month when we heard that the divorce proceedings had started. After twenty-five years of marriage, we never would have thought that this would be a possibility for them. We realized, however, that it wasn't our place to judge, put blame on anyone or do anything but be supportive. A divorce during this tumultuous time had to be hard enough on their family without any of us being critical.
The situation did, however, create a lot of conversations between Doug and I about our own marriage. There have been a lot of wonderful moments in our lives together and some challenging times as well. We agreed that it has taken a lot of work to maintain a healthy relationship, but has been totally worth it. The best part of our talks has been reminiscing about the favorite memories, from when we first met to our family vacations. It hasn't always been easy, but it sure has been worth it.
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